- Which idea(s) stood out to you the most in this chapter? Why?
- Which idea(s) were you most able to relate to? Why?
- Which idea(s) did you disagree with? Why?
- Was there anything from the reading that made you think of something from your own life? Share it!
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Habit 5 Reflection
Use this space to reflect and respond to the Habit 4 chapter. Remember, some things to think about to get you started might be:
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Something from habit 5 that I relate to is seek first to understand, then to be understood. This fits a time when I pushing someone to take the maintenance job opening. I kept forcing him to take it, and kept reminding him to do it. I really wasn't listening to what he was saying, I just kept asking him about it. He told me that if they do background checks there, he was going to have a gun charge on his record. He was afraid they wouldn't hire him for that.
ReplyDeleteAfter hearing about why he didn't want to apply, I just dropped it. I figured then, I'm not going to force him to do it. He needed to find a new job on his own. I didn't want to make him work there if he really didn't want to. I should have listened to his side of the story first.
its always good to listen first before speaking out
Deleteits good to listen instead of just blowing them off
Deletei relate to the spacing out and selective listening. i say this because when someone is talking to me or if im doing something i tend to space off sometimes. when im at home sometimes and my dad is telling me to do something or is yelling i space off sometimes.
ReplyDeletei say selective listening to because when someone is talking to me sometimes if i get bored or i dont care ill only listen to a little bit but not a lot of what they are saying. ill act like i was listening but most of the time im really not listening to them.
I am the same way when it comes to selective listening. Just have to try and focus more!
DeleteI second Taylor's comment. I have selective listening as well.
DeleteI think I relate to the entire habit 5. Listening has always been kind of a challenge for me. Not because I don't listen, I do but I am more of an "advicer." I totally understood when he said "Our first instinct is to sweep in and save the day". Thats how I feel like 90% of the time with people. I liked how it listed the differences between mirroring and mimicking.
ReplyDeleteI found ways to listen deeper through this habit. I learned this through listening with an open mind rather than getting angry. I think I will put myself in my shoes more often. I also liked how it talked about communicating with your parents. My mom likes to probe constantly sometimes and it makes me feel distant from her but when she isn't we communicate great.
i think all teenagers need help with listening
DeleteI agree with habit 5. on the spacing out and listening. I say this because i have a tendency to space out when people are talking to me. Like if I'm doing something don't try talking to me because I wont listen to well or if i am out doing something at home and some one asks me to do something I probable wont here you.
ReplyDeleteAlright so i say listening because i have a tendency to space off and act like i am listening to people when there talking to me or I listen enough to no whats going on but most the time i just hear the little things that don't help out much.
i think we all space off and just don't care for moments
DeleteI really think i relate to most of habit 5 because i have a hard time with listening if it is something i don't want to hear then i just zone out and ignore whoever is trying to talk to me. also if i am doing something and trying to get it done and someone is just talking my ear off i will probably get frustrated or angry and start yelling at whoever is talk to me as if i am doing my homework and my mom is like what do you want for supper i'm like i don't care just make something in a snotty remark which starts an argument which leads to me getting in trouble for something i honestly didn't mean to say.
ReplyDeleteI found ways in this habit to help me listen better or at least try and listen better. i learned to think with an open mind and see what the person talking to you has to say and not just assume and get angry with them and lead to a fight or argument when it could just be a simple answer as to no or yes. i also think the communicating with your parents section helped because in this i found that i don't communicate with my parents enough as i should i get home and put all my stuff away and just leave maybe i should hang out with them and talk to them more so we can have a healthy relationship.
I relate to Habit 5 a lot. The hardest thing for me to do sometimes is try and listen. I like to talk over people all the time. I fall under the selective listening the most I think. I do this with my mom and friends a lot more than I should. Most of the time I do this when they are trying to give me advise about something. I know what I want to hear, and when they finally say it I tune in.
ReplyDeleteI agree with him when he was talking about "mirroring." People, like me, can be really selfish when it comes to listening. When he gave the example of the conversation using this, it all made a lot more sense. I find that if I do this, more people will take the time to listen to me, and I will actually be able to start a conversation with them about it. Another thing I liked about this habits was communicating with parents. I think this is one of the hardest things that teenagers go through. We don't see when our mom or dad tries to talk to us, we just think that it is annoying. We need to work on this a lot more.
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ReplyDeleteI can relate to both a poor listener and a genuine listener. When i am in class and i dont feel like listening to the teacher thats spacing out. When my parents are yelling at me for something that i thing is stupid or i know im right i dont even listen, that pretend listening.
ReplyDeleteWhen i know that i need to get a play right on the football field i listen to what coach has to say with my eyes, heart and ears. I make eyes contact at all times and my heart by taking it in and doing it. Last listening with my ears will obviously let me know what i need to know. Last one i want to share is when coach is coaching me i have to stand in his shoes so i can see what he is say and understand it better.
I can relate to spacing out in class
DeleteI relate more to habit 5 than i do any other habit because i do not liesten very good and i just kind of space out and don't understand what the teacher is saying sometimes that could be any teacher when i am also at home i space out a lot.
ReplyDeleteWhen i am at home most of the time i listen to what my parents are saying and when they are talking i usually make eye contact with them and bring into what they are saying by using my hears is also another reason that i can bring into what they are saying if my dad is talking to me or something i am usually bring in what he is saying same as my mom.
There were some things in habit five that i can relate to. One thing is spacing out. The reason i say this is because i will act like im paying attention but im not focusing at all. Or i will just get side tracked and not pay attention.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing i can relate to is listening. I am alright listening depending on what it is. if im getting yelled at i will just not listen. if it is something important i will listen but there are times when i will get sidetracked and stop listening. otherwise i try to listen.
I can relate to just about everything in Habit 5. Specifically the types of listening. I tend to space out sometimes and totally miss anything someone is trying to say to me, but i do that mainly when im tired. Genuine Listening, Im a great listener when people come to me for advice or if they are giving me advice. I actually take the time to absorb and process the words they are saying. Like when someone comes to me to vent, first i listen to what they have to say and then i tell them my understanding and i give them they advice i would suggest.
ReplyDeleteI think that even though i am a pretty good listener for the most part, there is still things i could work on. Spacing out and not listening at all and pretend listening are my only two problems but i dont have them very often. As i mentioned those only become problems when im tired. Mainly because im to tired to process the information so i choose not to listen. I have been working on it though. I am slowly breaking my habit of not listening when im tired.
I agree that I do most of the Five Poor Listening Styles. The reasons is that is when I am in class and the teacher is talking for so long I space out and don't keep up on what he is saying. For a in a example a teacher right now and I get boring and I start on thinking whats going on tomorrow or the next, and thinking about football. When I pretend to listen is when a lot of people is talking around me and I don't really care what they saying because it is not interesting or just don't really care about there commitments.
ReplyDeleteI relate to using some of the poor listening style. The one I use the most is pretending to listen and not hear what someone has to say about something. I also use the word listening and not even hear what they are saying. Most of the time when I use these my mind is somewhere else and not in the situation or conversation I'm in that moment. I also make sure most of the time I do listen to people and hear what they have to say about something.
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